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Review
Finding
the Good in Grief: Rediscover Joy After A Life-Changing Loss by John F. Baggett,
is written well and comprehensive, but it is also honest and relatable. The
author sums up his latest work with this, “I have known several times of
tragedy in my life. I have also experienced many moments of grace during my
seasons of grieving. This book has drawn significantly on those difficult times
and reflects my own journey of faith in the midst of them.”
The very beginning
starts with quoting Job 3:25, “What I feared has come upon me,” and then it
gets real and Baggett gets personal, “The thing you feared, the thing you hoped
would never happen, has come upon you. Do you think you will ever forget where
you were, what you were doing, or the way you felt at the time? Do you remember
asking yourself, “Is this really happening?” Did you pray for God to make it
not so? And then, as the awful truth penetrated your heart, did you cry out,
“Why, God? Why did you let this happen?” The worst thing that ever happened to
me did not happen to me. It happened to my son…” Wow.
Finding the Good in Grief:
Rediscover Joy After A Life-Changing Loss by John F. Baggett is remarkable. His
candor about the loss he endured and the stages of grief he experienced lend to
his credibility and draw the reader in. He couples this with five steps to
‘rediscovering joy after a life-changing loss’, backs everything up with
scripture, as well as presents truths that I have experienced but either didn’t
realize or wasn’t able to articulate. So as not to give too much away, I will
limit myself reluctantly to three.
Here is an example of one: there are
actually moral temptations that accompany each of the stages of grief, such as
making choices, whether consciously or unconsciously, that can either delay
healing or prevent it altogether. Baggett clarifies by stating, “By making poor
choices in our coping strategies and by continuing in a stage of grief when it
is time to move on, we can stray from the healing pathway and find ourselves in
a spiritual crisis.” Been there, done that; never want to repeat it again.
There is also the ‘if I have enough
faith or am strong enough, I won’t have to go through that’ myth. This is
addressed clearly as early as page 11, “It is a mistake to believe grief can be
avoided if we have enough strength of character or enough faith. When we suffer
a loss, whether we are among the strong or weak, whether our faith is small or
great, we naturally experience grief, not as a sign of weakness, but as a
manifestation of our humanity.” Selah. [Calmly pause, and think about that.]
Another honest statement was the
unspoken ‘deal with God.’ This is something that I have thought to myself
before without expressing to others, only to learn from experience that as
Christians we are not immune to testing, trials, struggles, or pain. Baggett expounds,
“Surely, I reasoned, if we had survived all of those things and if I continued
in God’s faithful service, then God and I had a deal: He would not let anything
bad happen to me and those I loved the most. The tragedy of my son’s illness
shattered my illusion of invincibility and laid bare the inadequacy of my naïve
faith. I found myself journeying through a dark spiritual night, struggling
with a new lucidity about life, and feeling overwhelmed by sadness. In the
midst of my grief, my faith was tested profoundly as I struggled with an
unwillingness to face and accept the reality of my son’s condition
[schizophrenia].”
Obviously, I recommend ‘Finding the
Good in Grief: Rediscover Joy After A Life-Changing Loss’ by John F. Baggett.
About the Author (from Kregel):
Rev. Dr. John F. Baggett (MA, PhD, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill) is a pastor, counselor, and mental health professional who has served as a United Methodist pastor in Kentucky, Tennessee, and Chicago for more than a decade. He has served as executive director of The National Alliance for the Mentally Ill of North Carolina and as director of The North Carolina Division of Mental Health, Developmental Disabilities, and Substance Abuse Services. A member of the American Association of Christian Counselors, the Association of Christian Therapists, and other pastoral associations, Baggett is the author of Seeing Through the Eyes of Jesus and a contributing author to the Handbook of Mental Health Administration and Management.
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